mental wellness

We are here to spread mental health awareness and to promote self-love. This blog is all about learning to cope healthy to live a long and happy life. We are a wellness blog geared to helping you achieve the confidence you deserve.

We are always here to listen.
((About Promos))
What small animals make good therapy pets? I have depression and want to get a pet but I want something that enjoys being held. It must live in an apartment so no cats out dogs.

I have personal experience with this very thing. Personally, I adore rats. I know, I know. They have a bad reputation. But they are very playful and clever, and they are the cleanliest of rodents. They like to hang out on your shoulder and hide in your hair (if you have long hair). Birds and other rodents can probably help. Depending on where you live, you might look into a reptile as well - but be careful, as reptiles can get big, so choose one that won’t necessarily grow much. You might be able to get a rabbit too (though I’ve heard they don’t like to be held much).

Do your research on all of them, and make sure you’re willing to spend good money on your pets. I find pets to be extremely beneficial, and when I first started recovery and woke up from bad dreams, I’d watch my rats play until I slept again. (I slept on the floor next to their cage.)

It depends on what kind of animals you like, what amount of work you are able to do in their upkeep, the money you have to spend on them, etc. But there are MANY small pets out there. You just need to look around until you find one that would suit your needs.

- Tiffany

Charissa may add input, so check back to see her answer.

posted Apr.21.14 + 1 notes + reblog
How can I let this go? I'm always constantly worrying about my friend and her social life? She says that she has no friends, so I try to help her. I'm always making her to social events, talk to more people, and arrange situations where she can meet new people. I can't help worrying about it and doing this for her. It's making me very stressed out because all I think about. I really want to let it go because I feel like I'm obsessed.

"You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make the horse drink." You cannot save her. You cannot cure her or solve her problems. I know that’s really hard to hear considering you care so much, but it’s the hard truth. You are no god that can snap your fingers and make the world right for her. 

You’ve done all you can. Keep inviting her out, keep being her friend, but stop working yourself so hard over this. The only one who can help her is her. She’ll have to learn that on her own, in her own time. Once the horse is thirsty enough, it’ll dip it’s head and drink. Sometimes the horse gets reeeally dehydrated first, if you understand the metaphor.

You need to start worrying about yourself first. Start talking to other people, perhaps a counsellor if you feel like it. Pushing yourself so much to complete the impossible only adds unnecessary stress to yourself, which makes it harder for everyone. Start getting back to the things that make YOU happy. Decompress. Maybe cut out the amount of exchanges you have with this person until you are in a better place to handle it. 

- Tiffany

It does sound like you’re thinking too much about it and it’s having a strain on you, and that’s not healthy. You’re a good friend for caring and wanting to help her, but that shouldn’t take a toll on you and there are ways of supporting her without making sacrifices on your health. 

Do you feel like she’s making an effort to make friends? Does she want to have more friends? If the answer to either of these questions is a no, then honestly there’s only so much you can do, and it’s not going to be productive or effective trying to introduce her to people.

If she is, though, then maybe you can suggest that she joins some clubs or activities, whether in school or out of school? That way, she can meet people with similar interests as her as well as expand her social circle. For example, if she’s passionate about animals, she can volunteer at an animal shelter. Or if she likes reading, maybe a book club in school. That way, there’ll be regular meetings and you wouldn’t have to keep thinking of ways to help her meet more people.

She’s not your responsibility, love. You don’t need to and you shouldn’t be taking care of her all the time. The best you can do as a friend is be her friend, just be there for her when she wants to talk, and such, but not to help her with her entire life. But you have to stop yourself from trying to help her with everything, because that’s not your job. Does that make sense? Take care, love. All the best.

- Charissa

posted Apr.16.14 + 2 notes + reblog
This is the anon who was talking about cissexist posts. I definitely agree that a lot of cissexist posts aren't deliberately being cissexist; the original posters are probably just uneducated. Which I definitely understand, but it is still triggering to read that kind of stuff. Thanks for being so cool about starting to tag them! It means a lot. :)

Yeah no problem. I totally get triggers. Not fun. It’ll be tagged as “cissexism tw” :] Thanks for letting me know!

posted Apr.16.14 + 0 notes + reblog
I love you guys and I love all of your posts, but it seems like this blog is moving away from mental health posts and more towards human rights posts. I like both and I understand that the issues in our societies lead to mental health issues sometimes and I also appreciate the fact that you are attempting to educate your followers but I just wish you would post more metal health stuff is all. xoxo

We still post both, I’ve just lowered the amount of blogs I follow. I’ll build up some more stuff in a bit for the queue.

posted Apr.16.14 + 0 notes + reblog
There hasn't been much cissexist stuff lately, actually, but the menstruation one was definitely upsetting for me. I'd consider it cissexist; a lot of posts about menstruation tend to be.

I post those things because even though they are cissexist (and I don’t think they’re usually meaning to be, just perhaps forgetful or uneducated) they often make good points, so I’ll still reblog them. I’ll try to tag it from now on.

posted Apr.16.14 + 0 notes + reblog
Your blog is great and has a lot of good resources, but I've noticed that you reblog a lot of posts with casual cissexism, and you don't tag it. I'm a trans person, and seeing cissexism (especially the casual kind) on my dash is really triggering and not at all good for my mental health. Could you please start tagging that and and trying to call out the cissexism in the posts you reblog?

I do? Can you tell me which type? Like the posts like menstruation one?

posted Apr.16.14 + 0 notes + reblog
I feel as though for a 'love yourself, everyone is special' blog you have something against cis/straight people. The enemy is not cis/straight people, the enemy is prejudice and ignorance. I know bisexual people who flat out refuse to believe that pansexual is a thing and I know homosexuals who regularly make jokes about how gross they think transgendered people are. Just because someone is/isn't a sexual minority doesn't mean they are oppressive and it doesn't mean that they are accepting.

I actually do not have any problems at all against cissexual and straight people. I do know how it can be offensive to be categorized with all of the jerks of your majority - I am cis and white myself - but what you have to understand about jokes and complaints about ALL of the majorities is that it’s directed at the ignorant and rude ones of the majority. When people complain about a majority who have been oppressing and making them feel uncomfortable to be themselves, they’ll use general terms. It’s easier for them. The part of being an ally is to understand that when a minority is complaining about a majority, they don’t mean YOU, if you’re one of the people who try to understand.

There have been many times I’ve felt offended or hurt over being categorized myself. I am cis, but I am also queer, and so I’ve sometimes felt torn between understanding and feeling like I’m being attacked. That because I’m cis, for example, my personal experiences of being queer become null. It’s understandable to feel this way. You just have to understand it doesn’t MEAN the allies who understand that people can get so hurt they’ll be general in their pain. Because of my experiences, I have at one time said “all men are evil”. Is that true? Of course not! I just felt that way. I was going through something and I had been hurt badly by a cismale person. I generalized. 

Some of these posts may help you understand. I hope you see what we’re trying to point out.

1, 2, 3, 4 (abuse tw - the comments are what you should look at)

I was looking for this comic for a good hour but I can’t find it. I hope this suffices. It can hurt or be offensive, but you just have to try to understand why they do that. It’s just because of the oppression and all the horrible things a person has experienced that they say those things.

- Tiffany

posted Apr.08.14 + 2 notes + reblog
There's this person that I never wanna see again due to some issues I wanted to avoid them at all costs. I hate the fact that this person always made me feel guilty and that my reasons for my feelings were always pushed aside. Bottom line is I feel like I'm always scared to go to a certain place that I'll run into them. There's this important event I'm contemplating to go to but there's a high chance that they may attend to, should I go?

If you feel you will be able to possibly be in their presence and handle it healthily, yes. If you do not think you can handle it, consider not going. Your health and safety is the most important thing in your life, and if this will jeopardize it, you shouldn’t go.

However, if you think you can go (even if you are triggered) and still get something out of the event, then definitely go. You shouldn’t put your life on hold just because this person exists. To help with this, look for ways to cope healthily if you do happen to run into them. Finding ways to end the conversation quickly may help. Also keep in mind you have no obligation to speak with them anyways. You could just ignore them entirely. If you are afraid you may be partnered up with them or something similar, you could probably talk to one of the event coordinators and they’ll separate the two of you. 

- Tiffany

posted Apr.07.14 + 3 notes + reblog
what should i do if someone i know is currently contemplating suicide, but i don't live in the same state as them and they're not answering their phone?

Contact someone, anyone, you can find that can get to them. Family, friends. If you have their Facebook, this is useful for finding relatives. If not, it’s possible other tumblr friends of theirs will be able to contact them or someone they know. Failing that, I’d suggest a suicide hotline or 911, as I believe they can tell you what to do.

- Tiffany

posted Mar.23.14 + 0 notes + reblog


To all followers old and new, thanks for the support. This is my friendly reminder that my ask is always open for anything. 

Originally this blog was run by three individuals, but one left tumblr without warning and another drifted off. Currently there is only little ol’ me. 

My name is Tiffany and I am a 20 year old Canadian. If you have any questions about me, you can ask that too.

Because there is only one mod now, however, I just want to remind people that if you send an ask and it is not responded to right away, it’s because of that. Please be patient with me, and if you have an emergency, please contact your local authorities or mental health workers.

You could also head over to Open Fire Advice or A Recovered Life. Both blogs have trained professionals behind them.

posted Mar.19.14 + 3 notes + reblog